In yesterday's post, we looked at breaking compulsive behaviour. Today, continuing with the same example of one's relationship with alcohol, let us look at what gets created by breaking that compulsive behaviour.
It is only when we are able to detach ourselves from the things that we identify ourselves with (in this case, alcohol) that we are able to bring a distance towards those things. It is only with that distance we can break a pattern - compulsive, reactionary behaviour. That distance brings a perspective, and with perspective comes an ability to look at things holistically. A holistic view allows us to make a choice - a choice towards the desired outcome, the desired result. Eventually, continuing on that path with persistence and determination a new, desired future gets created with intent, with our involvement.
Don't we all want that? If so, take this weekend as a sabbath. A break from the routine to observe yourself deeply and see where all does the compulsive behaviour shows up. Is it alcohol or food or sex or cleanliness or prayers or reaching out to your phone to check the social media feed? Whatever it is, just be observant see where all your compulsive nature shows up. Do not suppress it. Let it be. But while it is so, observe what happens within, what are your responses. Simply observe without a bias or an opinion. And that shall bring a distance between your behaviour and you. If that act is being done mindfully, that's not the problem. But if it's an involuntary response then that distance should give you space to make your choice. It's not a concept, it requires your involvement. Bring that in and see what opens up... see what gets created.
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